In the 21st century, we have so much freedom; we can wear what we want, vote, work, and pursue any dream that our souls cling to. We are not required to settle down and start a family by the time we graduate high school like many generations before us. This is your time to chase after the life you have always imagined.
So many girls do not realize all that they have in front of them therefore their happiness ends up becoming dependent on a man. I am not one of those feminist women with a chip on their shoulder, but I do believe, and have learned from experience, that to truly be happy in this life, you need to learn how to be on your own and enjoy your own company. One of my favorite yoga instructors, Donny Starkins, spoke very true words in class recently when saying, "you do not come to yoga seeking because seeking requires you to look externally. You come to yoga to awaken. The answers are already inside of you." This is something that should be applied not only in yoga but in the real world! You are your own person. Never let your bliss become the result of external sources; materialistic items, money, or even a man. It is okay and normal and beautiful for certain people to put a smile on your face. But let them only ADD to the happiness you have already established yourself.
Once you become truly happy from the inside out, no matter what happens in this life, you will not allow your happiness to be shaken or wavered in any way. It becomes WHO you are instead of something you just TEMPORARILY have.
When you find yourself in a time of vulnerability, step back and observe the situation. Are you truly happy making the choices you are making and surrounding yourself with the people you are around? Or are they just temporary escapes? Face the challenge for there is a blessing within it, whether that blessing be a lesson learned, a fear overcome, or a new delcared independence.
Like my teacher, Julie Bell said in class, "commit yourself to sharing what you know in your mind, what you know in your body, and what you know in your heart." Stop searching for external escapes. You are your own happiness; I know this in my heart.
TIP: During this confidence boosting meditation, if you are confused figuring out Pran Mudra, imagine you are making a "peace" symbol with your hand, only your middle finger and index are basically glued together. This should be practiced on both hands. Place on your knees with your palms facing up.
Below is a guided meditation, led by myself, to boost your self esteem and increase your self-love. Check it out! It is worth it to take the extra five minutes out of your day.
TIP: During this confidence boosting meditation, if you are confused figuring out Pran Mudra, imagine you are making a "peace" symbol with your hand, only your middle finger and index are basically glued together. This should be practiced on both hands. Place on your knees with your palms facing up.